Cougar- An “older,” experienced woman who happens to find herself in a sexual relationship (committed or not) with a younger man. She is not necessarily a slut, nor is she desperate. She offers sexual expertise and is open to new experiences. She simply wants to have fun. Though older, she may actually look younger than her “hook-up.” She is attractive, confident, and just wants to have fun. She will not attempt to trap her mate into marriage, children or even an exclusive relationship. She is not interested in drama or games, as that would interfere with the pleasure she enjoys.
Many years ago, a younger woman dating a younger man would be looked down upon. Now it is highly acceptable and embraced. Finally the glimmer of hope has shone bright and the double standard is disappearing. An older man dating a younger woman was normal and acceptable but too much older garnered nicknames such as “sugar daddy” and “big poppa”. Think of RHOA star Kim Zolcziak before the fame and football husband. Nonetheless it was something that wasn’t accepted as it is now. Many woman of a particular age are snatching up boyfriends, lovers and eventually husbands that could very well be their sons.
It took many years but a woman dating a much younger man is finally becoming acceptable. Could there finally be a glimmer of hope that the double standard is fading? After all men that are younger tend to have longer stamina so it would make sense for a woman to want to be made love to by a man that doesn’t pop a male enhancement pill. They also like women that have their shit together. I mean who doesn’t like to be cared for. A man admitting to being with a woman that is older than her is usually warned that she’s just using him for sex and at times she is warned by him that he’s using her for money.
There’s definitely a double standard in effect. Madonna, Demi Moore , Sharon Stone and Tina Turner have found men that were younger than them and have been happy or at one time were very happy. The latter, Tina Turner just married her husband and he is well twenty years younger than her. The term “cougar” has been defined as those women who are mature mentally, stable physically and successful financially. Oh, and it goes without saying that they are sexually appealing to the eye. They are usually five to seven years older than the man minimum and can run circles around some of these so called bad bitches . Personally I am ok with the type of relationship that has an age difference. I mean why not fall in love with someone that can satisfy you in all areas. That’s what it’s ultimately all about right?? In time, the playing field has become leveled. Kudos!